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Do you ever talk to your best
friend?
Of course you do?
If you have a friend who is
special then usually you talk to that friend as often as you can.
So, now, let me ask you
something else. Is it hard to talk to your friend? Is it difficult to think of
something to say to your friend?
Of course not.
It's not hard at all to talk to
your friend.
You talk, and your friend
listens to what you have to say.
Your friend talks, and you
listen to what your friend has to say to you.
That's what friends do.
- Friends spend time with each
other.
- Friends like being with each
other.
- Friends talk to each other.
- Friends listen to each other.
Did you know that prayer is like
that?
Or it should be like that.
In its most simple form, praying
is just you and God--you and Jesus--talking to each other. And listening.
Does that sound too simple or
too easy. Maybe it doesn't sound religious enough to you.
Aren't there some rules you are
supposed to follow when you pray?
Aren't there some special words
your are supposed to use when you pray? Fine, majestic, great sounding words?
Oh, I know, some religions and
some religious people have made up all kinds of rules about praying.
Some of them have rules about
where you can prayand where you're not allowed to pray (according to
their rules).
Some of them say you have to
pray a certain number of times a week, or even a certain number of times a day.
Some of them tell you the words
you can use when you prayand some of them will tell you the words you are
not allowed to use when you pray. Some of them say that if you use one of those
wrong wordseven by accidentit makes your prayer no good and you
must start over again.
Some of them say you must
memorize certain prayers that someone else wrote down and recite them(say
those words over exactly as they were written)at special times, or on
special days, or even a certain number of times every day.
Maybe for some people, following
those rules helps them to feel that they are praying.
But you know, Jesus doesn't say
to do any of those things.
As a matter of fact in the days
when Jesus was walking and talking and teaching here on our earth, there were
religious leaders who had long lists of rules about praying.
Those religious leaders had
special prayers for everything that happened in life. Those prayers were all
written down, and all they had to do was pick the right one for the right
happening. They had special times to pray. And mostly their prayers were long
and filled with big and great sounding words. There were words and phrases they
repeated over and over again. Many times they would do this praying in a public
place where others could see and hear them pray. If they prayed well, and
sounded good when they prayed, then they thought that other people would notice
what they were doing and would be impressed. Those religious leaders were proud
of being able to pray well and say the right things.
Do you know what Jesus thought
about this? Listen:
- "Take care! Don't do your
good deeds publicly, to be admired, for then you will lose the reward from your
father in heaven. ... When you pray, don't be like the hypocrites who pretend
piety by praying publicly on street corners ... where everyone can see them.
Truly that is all the reward they will ever get. But when you pray, go away by
yourself, all alone, and shut the door behind you and pray to your Father (God)
secretly, and your Father, who knows your secrets, will reward you."
[Matt
6:1, 5]
Jesus was saying that you are
not to pray to try to impress other people who might hear you pray.
As I understand it, Jesus was
saying that praying is a private conversation between you and God.
If you are in a crowded
placeif there are all kinds of people around you, and everyone is
talkingand you find it difficult (hard) to pray there because of the
noise, then find some place where you can be alone and be quiet, so that you
can talk to God. That might be in a room by yourself, with the door
shutas in the example that Jesus gave. Or it might be while you are
walking by yourself on a quiet road somewhere.
How should you pray?
Should you repeat words that
someone else has written down to be a prayer?
This is what Jesus had to say
about that:
- "Don't recite the same prayer
over and over as the heathen do, who think prayers are answered only by
repeating them again and again. Remember your Father knows exactly what you
need even before you ask him." [Matt. 6:7-8]
When you talk to your special
friend, you don't just repeat the same words over and over, do you? Of course
not.
Then why keep repeating the same
words over and over when you talk to God? No, there is no need to do that when
you talk to Godwhen you pray.
Your friend is interested in
what is happening to you every day. So is God. He likes to hear you tell him
about your life. He likes to hear you tell him what makes you happy. He wants
to hear you tell him what is bothering youwhat is worrying you.
Yes, he already knows all those
things about you, but He wants you to tell Him anyway.
When you talk to your special
friend, I'm sure you don't use big long sentences with great sounding words as
though you were making an impressive speech. No. You use everyday words that
say exactly what you mean and exactly what you feel.
That is the kind of language to
use when you talk to God. Tell Him exactly what you feel, and think, and wonder
about. And tell Him in words that say exactly what you meanwords that you
understand when you say them.
When you talk to your friend,
you don't have to say your words in a loud voice, do you? (Unless, of course,
your friend is deaf and cannot hear very well.) No. You talk to your friend in
an ordinary tone of voice. You might even whisper to your friend. When you talk
to Godwhen you prayyou can also talk with an ordinary,
conversational voice. You can whisper. Or if you wish, you can speak with no
sound at all--just say the words in your mind, and in your heart. God will hear
what you say. God can hear your thoughts.
You don't have to wait until a
special time to pray.
Has something especially nice
happened to you. Just say, "Thank you, Lord."
Do you have something to do that
find very hard? Ask God for help right thenright while you are working on
that project.
Have you done something that you
know is wrong? Don't wait until night to make it right with God. Talk him right
then. Tell him right away, "Lord, I'm sorry. I've done the wrong thing. I've
failed you. Please forgive me. Please help me to learn from my mistake. Please
help me not to do this again."
Remember...
Praying doesn't have to be a
hard thing to do.
Praying doesn't have to be done
with a lot of words--great words.
And by the waywhen you
pray, don't do all the talking. Stay quiet every once in awhile. Sometimes, God
might have something to say to you. No, you won't hear his voice. But he may
put some thoughts into your heart or mind at a time like that--thoughts that
you know could only have come from him. Or he might have something special to
say to you through something you read in your Bible.
Take time to listen.
Praying is a conversation
between friendsa conversation between you and God.
If God is your friend--if Jesus
is your frienddon't wait too long to talk to him
Al Stewart
If you have any comments or questions, email me, if you like, at
Conversations .
I'd like to hear from you.
©1999 Allan Stewart
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